Conquer Anxiety and Stress!

Have you become more anxious and stressed since Covid?

Are you worried about you job, home, family here or overseas? Are you concerned aboout what happens next?

Or are you concerned and worrying about something else?  Or maybe it’s your child that has anxiety?

Anxiety and stress are not your fault! 

If you’re feeling anxious or stressed it’s because your mind’s automatic reactions take over.  You have little or no control.

They’re automatic behviours that are built up over months, or years, and they come from your subconscious mind. This is your inner “driver.” It’s what powers your behaviour, how you react, habits, etc. and it happens automatically. Many keep you safe. E.g. ook both ways before crossing a road. Others can feel like you have no control. E.g. You’re scared of spiders, flying, etc. 

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Symptoms of anxiety may include:

  • Trouble going to sleep or staying asleep
  • Weird dreams or nightmares
  • Feeling of uncertainty, restless or tense
  • Rapid breathing (hyperventilating) or high blood pressure
  • A sense of impending danger, panic or doom
  • Feeling fatigued, weak, trembly and/or sweaty
  • Trouble concentrating on other things or work
  • Have stomach or digestive problems, develop IBS, etc.
  • Phobias – avoiding things that trigger the feelings of anxiety
  • Persistent or excessive worry
  • Excessive alcohol or illegal substances
  • In children, this shows as selective mutism (a consistent failure of children to speak in certain situations)  or separation anxiety (anxiety that’s excessive for the child’s developmental level)

And if this carries on long enough, it can lead to depression

Source: Symptoms & Causes of Anxiety, Mayo Clinic.

The good news is that Hypnotherapy can help reduce the symptoms… or even stop them altogether.

And Roger Sxelby has helped many of his client get over anxiety, stress, depression, etc. 

He can help you too! 


Understanding Anxiety and Stress...

The What happens to your body and why… 

The stress you experience when you have anxiety is actually a mechanism that has enabled the survival of us humans for thousands of years.  Whenever you perceive a “danger” or “threat”, a message goes from your brain to your body in a millisecond, and your stress response automatically kicks in.  It’s known as the “flight, figh, freeze or fawn*” syndrome. It’s your body’s way of handling what it perceives as a “threat”.  It’s been built up over many years and becomes a automatic reaction, even if the ‘threat’ is no long real. 

 And when that happens some of your bodily functions, those that are not essential to saving your life, are switched off.  These include your digestion, salivation, immune response, sex drive and even intelligence.  Your survival instinct takes over, instantly.  This can happen even if it is only an imagining danger or threat! 

 Back in the days when we lived in caves we were always on the alert for that sabre toothed tiger, or any other threat to our wellbeing.  The instant we sensed danger the brain would signal a survival message to the body – get out of danger (flight) tackle danger head on (fight) or stay very still (or play dead) and hope the danger will pass /not notice us (freeze). 

Think of your body as a “chemical factory”, and at the first sign of danger or threat, your body produces adrenalin to prepare you to deal with the situation. You don’t even have to think about it. It’s a completely automatic response.

You may notice your heart pounding (palpitations) as it increases pumping blood and oxygen into the muscles around your body (blood pressure increases) and your breathing suddenly more rapid, to enable you to fight or flee in a hurry.  Functions essential for short term survival are switched on, functions essential for long term survival are switched off. If the fear, panic, or alertness continues for too long, more than a few minutes or so, and the life saving chemical changes in the body and the appropriate behaviour is not put into action, your body begin to produce a different hormone, cortisol. 

This hormone causes you to continue breathing at a faster rate than normal, and your heart to continue palpitating.  As well as that your blood pressure will remain high, your immune system will continue to be shut down and/or not functioning efficiently.  All of this can soon cause you to feel exhausted. 

 Usually the anxiety is a temporary state which passes when there is no longer a threat. But too much adrenalin or cortisol over an extended period of time, has a very negative effect on your body, your mind, and can severely impact on your life. 

 Too much adrenalin can cause rapid heart beat (palpitations ) high blood pressure, anxiety, excessive sweating, restless nights and insomnia, nerve damage. 

 And too much cortisol can bring about weight gain, skin infections, weak muscles, chronic back ache, brittle bones, irregular  menstrual cycle or none at all, a decrease in fertility, libido, and impotence, anxiety, irritability, frequent headaches, chronic fatigue and even depression.

* Flight includes running or fleeing the situation, fight is to become aggressive, and freeze is to literally become incapable of moving or making a choice. The fawn response involves immediately moving to try to please a person to avoid any conflict.  (The latter can develop from abuse). 

Source:  Psychology Today article

What anxieties do you have?

Thankfully, we don’t need to watch out for sabre toothed tigers any more, but life still has its ups and downs.  So, there are many other causes of stress which can trigger the same physiological responses.

You may have anxiety about… 

  • being made redundant, paying bills, making ends meet?
  • your work – maybe you don’t get on with the boss or co-workers, and how do you find another job? 
  • your marriage or relationship? Fighting all the time, no longer happy? 
  • your children – maybe misbehaving, take no notice of you or getting up to things?  
  • not having the success you feel you deserve?
  • things have spiralled out of control – you’re feeling overwhelmed?
  • your health and/or aging?
  • Chronic or terminal illness or disease? 

If its a child they may be having difficulties…

  • at school – being bullied, bullying, feeling left out / no friends, not able to keep up with the school work, or even undiagnosed sight or hearing issues. 
  • at home – stressors in the family, parents fighting, not feeling loved or wanted, sibling rivalry, etc.
All of these, and more, can be a cause of stress, anxiety, depression, bed-wetting, etc. because you to think negative thoughts and feel negative emotions. And any of these can lead to exhaustion, sleeping poorly, problems with digestion, bed-wetting, and weight issues, irritable bowel syndrome, loss of interest in sex, and even more serious medical conditions.
Does any of this sound familiar to you, or perhaps one you know? 

We Can Help You Get YOur LIfe Back!   

Some people turn to alcohol, smoking, drugs, or even gambling to cope with stress. These may start off as just a distraction but can become addictive, causing even more difficulties and more stress.  Sometimes this can even lead to violence and abuse.

Have you found yourself on this ‘treadmill’ and can’t see a way off?  Have you ever asked yourself what you can do to help yourself?  How can you manage stress more effectively?


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